Very fine piece! Clear, concise, on point. While I agree with everything you say, I think you didn't explore a few elements.

Why did she disdain these guys? Maybe because she felt hate from them, before or after her success? This would make her feelings a response to theirs.

Or she disdains them because oof their delusion the way would be paved for them? This would be my reason. I'm a white middle class male. I never expected my way to be paved, and it wasn't.

Why did they feel their way was to be paved to begin with? Who told them their way would be paved? What in their life experiences prompted their belief?

Perhaps you see I've started a truth units analysis here. I think we need to pinpoint the sources of their belief.

Who told them? What did they see around them growing up?

Without answers to these questions, it might be very hard for them to get seen and accepted, as you admirably urge.

Having been in politics chats with these men over the years, my impression is they think too highly of themselves. My guess is their fathers were the same, and that their fathers puffed up their modest accomplishments, creating unrealistic expectations for their sons.

My guess is they will never let go of their rage until they see, mapped out in detail, how their beliefs were an illusion (to see the truth units supporting their beliefs that I've speculated about). My guess is that would take a therapeutic intervention like what I had to go through for my delusions.

It wouldn't fully erase their rage, but it could remove the fuel their self-righteousness provides. That could make compassion more achievable for others. That's pretty much the only path I see. Perhaps there are others?